I seriously considered making this the “Gender Edition” because this has been an interesting (or ridiculous, whatever) week for the topic – as hosted by Christine at Bookishly Boisterous. It also happens to be one that fascinates me. I promise to go slightly more bookish next week. This brings me to one of my first worries, that I veer too far from books too frequently. However I’d like to think that many of the women present in the online bookish community are interested in gender issues as well. In fact, a few of the stories below were shared by three women I follow (Isi, Kate, and Mel). So thanks you three (#10, #4, and #6 respectively).
10. As it turns out, men and women CAN be friends. However, should they? Probably not, studies say. Studies have found that there is usually some underlying attraction between friends, usually from the men. Men routinely overestimate their attractiveness (to women) while women routinely underestimate their attractiveness (to men). The last part I can see being true.
The rest garnered eye rolls. Growing up, from age 6 to my teenage years, my best friend was male. And we were just that, best friends. Not once were there underlying Dawson Creek-esque feelings going on, although there were more than a few platonic sleepovers. And you know what, his wife is really nice. We’re still friendly. Are we not as close because he’s married? Nope, we just drifted apart. The same goes for my friendships as an adult, several are male and we manage to co-exist just fine – without any awkward pining.
9. If you read nothing else on here, read the comments on this article, they’re the best I’ve read in ages. Your Vagina Isn’t Just Too Big, Too Floppy, and Too Hairy – It’s Also Too Brown.
8. It gets better. Apparently men with attractive wives are happier than if their wives are unattractive. Also, it doesn’t matter for women. “What Meltzer and her team discovered was that spousal attractiveness does play a major role in marital satisfaction — but only for men. In other words, men care about looks more than women do.” I’m glad to have confirmation of what I’ve always believed: men are indeed the shallowest of creatures – according to studies… Do I actually believe this? No…most of the time.
7. I think the world would be a better place if all guys felt like this. ‘I like A Girl Who Reads Is The Anthem Every Bookworm Needs To Hear’ (probably not work appropriate).
So earlier in the week when I used deliquescent in a sentence and a guy laughed at me, it was really because he found me attractive, right?
6. This guy is doing it right. (Image)
(Is anyone really surprised women have self-esteem issues? She just had a baby, she looks great. The end. To reinforce the first part of my parenthetical statement, there are people in this world who are bashing a woman who looks better than me and I don’t even have a 4 month old keeping me up at night.)
3. I’ve mentioned that I’m not good at taking compliments. I get all awkward, or at least more awkward (tangentially related, why does awkward only look cute on Zooey Deschanel?). I received two unusual compliments this week. The first, I have a nice walk (it’s delicate, apparently). The second, I smell fluffy. Any guesses as to what fluffy smells like? Because you know I ruined the moment and asked.
2. Has anyone ever created a soundtrack for their life? Lori and I were talking about what songs to include and now I really want to start on it (I semi-started on it in the comments section of Empire Falls if anyone is dying to know that Bob Dylan is indeed on there). Apparently there are steps to doing so… (These wouldn’t work for me.)
1. I’m glad I’m not the only one who wonders about Back to the Future – like how come they’re never curious as to why their son looks exactly like that dude they knew in high school?. Why ‘Back to the Future’ Is Secretly Horrifying.
So…fluffy, anyone? And can men and women be friends? When Harry Met Sally would say no, but I’m in trouble if we can’t (mostly because I’d lose my best friend).